(Part 4 of the Series)
In Part 1 of this series last week we looked at what a mentor is and does. In Part 2 we looked at ways to find a mentor and in Part 3 we looked at how to be a mentor. In this article, we will talk about wether you are an mentee or a mentor it´s a win-win situation never the less.
Making a difference in the lives of others is one of the keys to fulfillment. Susan Krauss found this out in her study of happiness in midlife adults. No matter what their job, the most fulfilled were the people who were reaching out to the young and helping them through life hurdles.
By helping young colleagues, students, friends, and family members, midlife and older adults provide valuable insights based on their own life experiences, insights that can’t be easily transmitted through "book learning."
There is all kinds of advice that the experienced can give to the novice ranging from proper behavior in new situations to hands-on skills to succeed in a given profession. In fact, you don’t even have to be that old or experienced to pass along the knowledge you’ve acquired. I’ve seen many junior and senior undergrads help "mentor" their first-year and sophomore classmates. You don’t have to reach that far down the age hierarchy to pass the torch.
Passing along knowledge from one generation (defined loosely) to the next is a central feature of what psychologist Erik Erikson called "generativity." He believed that the feeling of connection you derive from mentoring helps your ego develop the value of caring. If you don’t develop this quality, you run the risk of what he called "stagnation."
My advice is: Don’t give up on the young. Don’t label them any more than you would like to be labeled. And when a young person appears disrespectful, don’t take it as a sign to write off an entire generation. The person you will be writing off is– yourself.
Coming home from two days of meetings / conference in Sweden. Very nice people and good topics.
Tomorrow I’m going to Stavanger for mentee interwiev. 15 mentee for the mentor program at the university in Stavanger. I’m looking sooo forward to meet them and listening to their great plans for the future.
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I just come a mentoring session today with 4 entrepreneurs within education. They are 4 girls and one guy (the last girl couldn´t make it today).
The business idea is to make training for small kids and sell it to schools and kindergardens. It is a lot fun to meet them because they are so enthusiastic and willing to do almost everything you suggest. So today we had a two hours session about their businessplan and a presentation they are going to have on the 22. of september.
I am really looking forward to meet them again and work more with this brilliant idea.
Go Phi, Wenche, Hanne and Erlend.
Dear Thor-Erik Gulliksen,
On behalf of the JCI Training Commission we are pleased to inform you that your application for IG, International Graduate, was APPROVED. You will soon receive by regular mail, your International Graduate Certificate from JCI Headquarters.
The members of the JCI Training Commission would like to congratulate you for this outstanding achievement and welcome you to the International Trainers team. As a member of JCI select group of experienced trainers, you are invited to continue your support to JCI by conducting international training courses as well as involve, inspire and support the new trainers who are working hard to climb the steps of the JCI Training. At the same time, we encourage you to keep your focus on reaching the maximum level in the JCI Training Certification, the ITF (International Training Fellow).
As an International Graduate (IG) you are also qualified to become Head Trainer for JCI Designer if you already have attended the JCI Head Trainer course and have conducted all modules of JCI Designer as Assistant Trainer.
You can also offer to conduct a short course at JCI Conferences and/or Congress, especially if you are already planning on attending.
Please continue to log in the training hours you conduct in your database at JCI’s website and as soon as you reach the number of hours required and have completed all other requirements for the next level, you can apply to become an International Training Fellow (ITF).
Thanks again for all your hard work and dedication. We hope to see you conducting training courses on the international level.
All the best!
JCI Training Director
2010 Training Commissioner for Europe
"Our emotions need to be as educated as our intellect. It is important to know how to feel, how to respond, and how to let life in so that it can touch you." —Jim Rohn
That is my key words when I am going to have a workshop at the Norwegian Rotary Organisation the 27. of september. And I will use mentoring as the great tool it is.
Read here for more information about AKersborg Rotary: www.akersborg.rotary.no/
If you happens to be in Norway and Oslo and wants to come, please join us at Grand Hotel, at the Limelight Bar. www.grand.no/no/Restauranter–Barer/Limelight-Bar/
Hope to see many people there at six o´clock, just after work.
How do you start your day?
Over some years no, I have tryed to plan all the things I have to do by writing everything down the night before.
I found that drawing up your list the night before prompts my subconscious to work on my plans and goals while I am asleep.
And when I wake up, I feel ready to tackle my challenges.
You should also try this, here are some tip:
A Written Plan
Lists of goals, tasks and objectives are of no help unless they’re written. Putting your plans on paper makes a seemingly elusive goal more concrete.
Urgency vs. Importance
An unexpected phone call or a drop-in visitor may be urgent, but the consequences of dealing with either may not be important in the long run. The urgent is other-oriented, it’s caused by someone else. Important things are self-directed and have the greatest value for you.
As a tool you could use Stephen R. Covey´s "The Time Management Matrix"
When you are a member in Junior Chamber International (jci.cc) you have friends everywhere. I become a member in 1996 and a senator (Honorary life membership in JCI. The highest individual honor a member can receive) in 2006.
All my time in JCI have I heard that I have friends everywhere and just an e-mail from a place to sleep or a friend in a new city. Well I did try on Malta for some years ago, and it was big fun. I got to be in a monthly meeting and then we took a beer in the hotel where the meeting was.
When I was visiting Tunisia on summer vacation for two weeks with my wife and some friends I did it again. I meet two JCI members from Tunisia. I wrote on my Facebook site about my trip to Tunisia and then we started e-mailing each other and finally meet at my hotel.
For me it was very fun to get to know more about Tunisia, their politics and people. And of course they learned something about Norway as well. We where talking for several hours and shake hands goodbye as close friends. Of course as close you can come after several hours talking.
I am very honored that Nawel Khelil and Wassef El Abed wanted to meet me. They spend some time getting to my hotel because I was staying in Hammamet and they where living in Sousse.
Thank you Nawell and Wassef, hope to see you again very soon!
And tomorrow I am leaving for Kiev in Ukraine, I wonder if there are some JCI members there…
An application like this is heavy work, and I am almost finish. I must say that the training no is so much better than the last one. I can really say that going trough the stuff over and over again is worth it in the end.
Small changes ahead and then it is done and ready for upload at www.jci.cc
I really hope for more trainings in Europe. I have done a lot in Norway, of course, but also in Sweden. But I want to do some more outside the nordic countries.
Will see, this is so excited.
Last night I watched the first show Breakthrough with Anthony Robbins on NBC (http://www.nbc.com/breakthrough-with-tony-robbins/) and I am stunned.
It seems so easy, but it`s a lifechanger!
Look here: www.breakthroughinsider.com/
If you are in Oslo, Norway you can see the show at the Ballroom in Nedre Vollgate 11 in centrum, next wednesday 11/08-2010.
Fantastic, Go, Go Go…
Thank you inspirator.no/
Answer: Have a face-to-face meeting when you start the relationship
Distance relationships can be very productive. Breaking the ice and establishing rapport is so much easier, face-to-face.
Begin with a function that brings participants together. The investment outweighs the cost of a failed relationship.
If you cannot get together use videocalls (such as Skype), which is better than email or an ordinary phonecall.
Extra work is necessary to ensure the viability of the long-distance relationship. Extra contact and newsletters help. You may wish to provide participants with regular Mentoring Works Articles? You will find a lot of them here at this blog.
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