Dealing with ethical dilemmas in mentoring and coaching

For my latest episode on my podcast I argued about this topic and I started with the basic definitions.

What is ethics?

Ethics is the study of morals and principles that guide our decisions about right and wrong. I do not want to delve into the various ethical theories, and go deeper again into utilitarianism, duty ethics, deontology and virtue ethics. It is the theories that provide the framework for understanding what is ethically correct in various situations, but in the podcast I deals with various topics within mentoring and coaching and that is where the focus is.

Socrates believed that «To do well as a man, one must follow his nature», and then he goes on to say that right insight gives right action, and right action in turn makes man happy. And that is what we want right – to be happy…

I was talking about «The global code of ethics» that EMCC has created. It is not only because it was made by the association I am a member of, but because they are trying to create a standard in ethics in our industry and so far 11 other associations in our industry have signed up to use the «Code of ethics» which is developed by EMCC Global.

I think there is no need to reinvent the wheel, we must be able to work together for the best interests of the client, mentee or coachee… They therefore want to launch the global ethical guidelines The ethical rules have been developed to set standards for what clients and purchasers/companies can expect from a coach/mentor in connection with coaching/mentoring or in connection with guidance/advice. The ethical rules must be the starting point for any cooperation agreement. It says something about how we should work with clients, how our professional behavior should be and how you can have an excellent practice.

In an attempt to create some kind of conclusion at the end, ethical dilemmas are an inevitable part of the mentoring and coaching practice. Being prepared for such challenges and having a clear understanding of ethical guidelines is essential for maintaining professionalism and integrity as a mentor/coach.

Everyone in the industry should seek guidance, participate in continuous professional development and be willing to reflect on and improve their own practice in order to meet these dilemmas in an ethical way. Using your professional network is important and having such a network behind you should be important for all parties involved.

On my way to the EMCC conference

Due to strike in Brüssels I was stranded in Frankfurt and needed to stay overnight in Frankfurt. Not my preference to stay at a airport hotel with no food or peanuts.

But now on the airport and on my way to Prague. I am really looking forward to this conference because I am going to make a conference podcast and interview some of the speakers.

And David Clutterbuck THE mentoring and coaching go-to-guy in the world, is one of the interviews.

Stay tuned and look up my podcast “THE TALK – BY MENTORGURU”

This time it will be some interviews in English…

EMCC Global Conference in Prague

European, Mentoring & Coaching Council are delighted to announce that the 2023 EMCC Global Mentoring, Coaching, and Supervision Conference will be a LIVE event and will take place at the Corinthia Hotel in Prague, on 9th and 10th June 2023. So just a few days left…

Dr. Rıza Kadılar
Here is a message from the EMCC Global President – Dr Riza Kadilar

Dear members of our EMCC community,

After a few years of needing to stay online, I’m so thrilled and happy to let you know that our yearly conference in June will allow us to meet in person in the lovely city of Prague.

This will be a «come back” after our excellent conference in Dublin in 2019. That’s why our main goal will be to bring a traditional inclusive, warm and welcoming atmosphere – to enable our community to hug, meet, share and learn from each other. Let’s make this our warmest Conference to date!

I encourage you to apply to contribute as a speaker and/or to book your place and travel plans as soon as possible, in order to avoid any last-minute disappointment due to relatively limited capacity.

Looking forward to seeing you all there…!!!

Dr. Rıza Kadılar

EMCC 2019 Research Award

EMCC is delighted to announcethe winner of 2019 Research Award Professor Erik de Haan for his research Differences between critical moments forclients, coaches, and sponsors of coaching

Dr Riza Kadilar, EMCC President said ‘With our roots firmly in research since EMCC was founded in 1992, we’re delighted in this our 26th anniversary year to be launching our first ever annual research award.
And who better to receive the first award then Professor Erik de Haan who has been a supporter of EMCC for many years by speaking at our conferences, contributing to our work, and enabling Ashridge to gain EMCC’s coach/mentor training award (EQA) and supervision training award (ESQA).

Erik has over twenty-five years of experience in organisational and personal development, bringing to his work a sensitivity to what moves and motivates people, and a strong analytical ability. He aims to support people in their search for what is ‘right and just’ for themselves and for others in their organisation. Searching for and assuring people’s personal engagement appears to him a key condition for change and development.The research started in Spring 2002 and concluded inSpring 2019, with the publication of the book Critical Moments in Executive Coaching.

Read more here about the award

About EMCC
The EMCC is an internationalcoaching, mentoring,and supervision association established in 1992. EMCC is made up of Affiliated Countries in Belgium, Croatia, Cyprus, Czech Republic, Denmark, Finland, France, Germany, Greece, Hungary, Ireland, Italy, Luxembourg, Morocco, Netherlands, Norway, Poland, Romania, Serbia, Spain, Switzerland, Turkey, Ukraine, United Kingdomand the Asia Pacific Region.We have over 6,000 members across more than 70 countries world-wide.EMCC exists to develop, promote,and set the expectation of best practice in mentoring, coaching, and supervisionglobally for the benefit of society. Our vision is to be the ‘go to’body in mentoring, coaching,and supervision.For more information on EMCC visit

Powerful and cost-effective

Mentoring is arguably one of the most powerful and cost-effective ways of helping people expand and achieve their aspirations. There is also strong evidence that it is a very effective means to retaining talent in organisations, and to create and sustain desired corporate culture. It also offers one of the highest returns on investment in supporting entrepreneurs, addressing societal disaffection amongst the young, and building bridges between cultures and communities.

The conference is open to members and non-members, so please let your colleagues and networks know about this event.

26. of October is the date and Barcelona in Spain is the place

Book her: 1 st International Mentoring Conference

First board meeting for EMCC Norway

Today is the very first board meeting for the new board, 2018-2020), I am so excited. I got elected 3 weeks ago as president for two more years. Today we are going to set the strategy for the next two years, will be excited.

We elect the same board, but we got one more member in the board who is a new and active member.

Stay tune…

EMCC International 24th Annual Conference 2018

This time the conference is in Amsterdam, The Netherlands, and we are at a Marriott Hotel down in the centre.

This was also EMCC`s 24th conference and this time it was 5 delegates from Norway, include my self. 

I also got the chance to do the Masterclasses on day One. This time I registered for Kirsten M. Poulsen and her Masterclass: How modern mentoring is transforming company culture and leadership.

Thanks to Norman Benet who made this short video from day one.

My mentoring hero

I met my big, big inspiration: David Clutterbuck at the conference. I was not surprised since he was one of the founders, but I was nervous…

Suddenly in one of the sessions he stands before me and someone introduced me to him. I told him that I was a huge fan and that he is my mentoring guru. And he asked for my business card, and I said I have to tell you a story before you get my business card…
«I was looking for a business name or something to call my blog about mentoring, and to my big surprise MENTOR GURU was not taken… I then said that I was surprised that he hasn’t taken the name, but as a marketing man I found that this could be good for branding…»

I was so embarrassed but he just laughed, oh my…

Read about him at his webpage: