Success history 2

Some say that you got a mentor for a restricted time you finished the adept/mentor relationship and then the contact stop. If you got a good relation with your mentor, the relation don`t stop.
For some time ago I talked to an adept in the very first mentor program I coordinate in 2000/2001 as a project within an organization called Junior Chamber International (www.jci.cc) and she still got contact with her mentor after 8 years.

This was a mentor program JCI offered for young people within Young Enterprise (www.ja-ye.org) in Norway (www.ue.no) and she was 16 years old.

So she had contact with the mentor from 16 to 24, so this was a really good job from the mentor. And the adept really understand what mentoring could do for here in a period in life where there is a lot happening.

My book project

I am writing two books about mentoring. They are handbooks for the involved part in a mentoring relationship.
I have learned in my years working with mentoring that both adepts and mentors don`t get the full potential out of the time they spend together.
The reflection part and the overall perspective is less because they take easy on the fact that writing down all thoughts is important.
It is important if you want personal growth to take notes. So my project is to find some tool to make it more easy for both adepts and mentors.

I am writing one book for the adept and one for the mentor. Mentoring is an exciting topic and it is easy to find a lot of material, but more difficult to select the most important.

Care to comments or tip me of topics you are more than welcome

Getting a younger mentor

I read an article about getting a younger mentor (in Norwegian at http://www.konsulentguiden.no/index.cfm?id=147082&side=1).
The article said that it is a trend among middle-aged leaders to get younger mentors.

It`s called “Reverse mentoring” and Jack Welch (www.welchway.com), then chairman at General Electric (www.ge.com), was maybe the first to try this.
When he ordered 600 of the leaders to get a younger mentor in 1999.

Matt Starcevich at Center for Coaching & Mentoring in Oklahoma (www.coachingandmentoring.com) says that reverse mentoring can give advantage for the organization.
He found out that 41% used reverse mentoring to learn technical expertise, and 26% used it to give leaders a more youthful perspective.
Of course it is important that the older leaders don`t have any prejudice against younger people.

What do you think about reverse mentoring? Do you have some experience with it? Tell me!

Are You ready to get a mentor?

The popular advice is «find a mentor».
But before you get one you should ask yourself «How ready am I to be mentored»?

Your readiness will have a significant impact on how successful and productive the mentoring partnership will be.

Follow the link and take this quiz that will give you a start in assessing your readiness..

http://www.coachingandmentoring.com/Assessment/ReadinessToBeMentored.htm

Trainings

I do a lot of training together with a good partner Kai Roer (www.bebetter.no). We do training in a lot of themes within mentoring, coaching and leadership.

Trainings like: «The leader as an educator», «Coaching to lead» and «Mentoring tools».

We both do it in Junior Chamber International and in companies.

Success story

I will use this title to tell you small histories happened because of mentoring and networking.

I got a mail for a couple days ago, with a request from a young boy. He ask if I would like to be his mentor, because he was going to start up his own company. He got my name from a colleague at work, the colleague was an adept at a mentor program I had 6 years ago. And she told him that he should contact me because I was a good mentor, and could help him.
This was a very pleasant request and I am looking forward to meet him and hear more about his business idea. Maybe I will be traveling with him on his journey as an entrepreneur, I keep you posted.
This is a good story because it shows how important networking is, and how old acquaintances suddenly can give exciting new jobs.

Mentorpilot in Norway

Today I attend a pilot mentorprogram in three counties (Hordaland, Troms and Sogn og Fjordane) within Innovation Norway (www.innovasjonnorge.no). The adepts are young entrepreneurs and mentors are more experienced business people.

It is wonderful to sit and hear a lot of people talk about mentoring and all the benefits. Especially Shahzad Rana (www.questpoint.no) with his long experience as an entrepreneur and in the judge in the program at TV2 (www.tv2.no) «Skaperen», with his dear focus on entrepreneurship. And Jeroen Scüssel (www.startnowcoaching) talking about the tools as an mentor`.

And Ingrid Roynesdal (www.roynesdal.no)talking about here experience with mentors as an adept. With here many years as an tennisplayer (winner of 14 norwegian championship and 15 years as an professional pianist. She has a very long experience as an adept using various mentors.

In the end Jennybeth Ekeland (www.aff.no) was talking about all the myths about adept and mentors and their relationship.

A very good day and I am looking forward to hear more about their year as an entrepreneur with an mentor. Good luck everyone!

Coaching versus mentoring

Don`t forget that the adept/mentee or coachee is the most important here. The result is far more important than if he has a coach or a mentor. I know this is fuel to the fire but I dare.
We can also be a bit simple in the explanation and say that as a mentor you see it as the responsibility to offer appropriate support, suggestions based on your professional knowledge and even introductions to the adept/mentee.
As a coach you work with the coachee for them to discover their own paths – and to decide what they want to do and who they might ask to be part of their plan.

Is mentoring the poor relative to coaching?

I found the article, from 20. august 2008 at: http://www.trainingzone.co.uk/cgi-bin/item.cgi?id=187519&d=680&h=0&f=0&dateformat=%25e-%25h-%25y

Finally someone with the same opinion as me, because if you read it through you find that it is pro mentoring all over.

It`s maybe a bit long, but it`s worth it!

Coaching vs. mentoring

There is no denying that coaching is the profession du jour: If it’s not advances in e-coaching making the trade press, then it’s another new product launching to make the coaches life easier. And where there is training to be imparted, there is money to be made. Add to this the impending skills gap and the current government fervour for departmental development and you have a voracious demand for more coaches.

But for all the good this tunnel vision has done for the coaching industry, it has only served to push mentoring further into the background. David Pardey, senior policy research manager at the Institute of Leadership and Management (ILM) suggests that the main reason behind the imbalance is down to coaching’s ability to sell itself.

«Mentoring is worthy but dull, coaching is sexy and professional. I don’t think that’s true or a good thing but I do think the emphasis on coaching has been to the detriment of mentoring.»
David Pardey, ILM

«Coaches are more commercial,» he admits. «There are an awful lot of people out there who are professional coaches; in fact the numbers are increasing all the time but also within businesses and organisations, there is a growing emphasis put on managers working as coaches with their own teams, and they in turn are having to learn new skills,» he says.

Pardey also believes that the popularity of coaching has been aided by lobbying groups and the government push on coaching, as well as the general perception that it is seen as a more ‘professional’ discipline. «Mentoring is worthy but dull, coaching is sexy and professional. I don’t think that’s true or a good thing but I do think the emphasis on coaching has been to the detriment of mentoring,» he reflects.

Mentoring comes of age

That said, the value of mentoring is gaining momentum particularly among managers where there is a growing appreciation of its advantages. It now plays a critical role in organisations and has been particularly important in the progression of women and other minority groups in the workplace and presents a valuable tool in long-term management and organisation development – something that short-term coaching strategies can often overlook.

Jan West heads up MentorSET , a women-only independently funded organisation that places mentees from the science, technology and engineering sectors with suitable mentors. She has seen mentoring experience a surge in popularity since the scheme’s inception in 2001.

«From our point of view mentoring seems to have become exceedingly popular. Back in the days when we first set up, mentoring was not well known but it’s all over the place now,» she says.

«People probably don’t understand what mentoring is all about. They think coaching is all about having these courageous conversations – well you can do that with mentoring, it’s no different.»
Linda Grant, Skipton Building Society

However West believes the reason for mentoring’s flagging publicity is down to the fact that most mentors aren’t doing it for a living and therefore have no reason to advertise themselves as such.

«The mentor has a profession and is helping someone else either as part of their job or in their spare time as a volunteer. As for a coach, that’s their occupation and what they have trained for.»

While few of the mentors who work with MentorSET are professional coaches, some are from an academic field such as teaching and lecturing. West finds that rather than simply acting as role models for the mentees, the relationship is far more useful in tackling the issues associated with modern working environments such as career development, confidence issues and work/life balance.

«We have actually had women who have been harassed in this sector and think this it’s actually the norm until they have a mentor to point it out that they don’t have to put up with that type of behaviour,» she says. «Some women have been ready to walk out of their career. We help people with lots of different issues and have been really successful. It does work and that’s why we keep getting the funding.»

A matter of semantics

Mentoring and coaching mean different things to different people but the fact remains that both present different and incredibly powerful methods of helping individuals develop. «People probably don’t understand what mentoring is all about,» says Grant.

«They think coaching is all about having these courageous conversations – well you can do that with mentoring, it’s no different – you should still be having very difficulty conversations with people, asking taxing questions in fact mentoring can be more far reaching,»

Coaching and mentoring could and should enjoy a more symbiotic relationship where coaches refer clients to mentors and visa versa. «When it come down to it, coaching isn’t necessarily the right thing to use, there are times when mentoring would be far more beneficial,» says Pardey. «Because the roles are different, the coach and the mentor can co-exist and that would be a really powerful support method.»

Welcome to Mentorblog

Mentorblog is all about mentoring – what it is, how it works, how you can learn it and also how you can use mentoring to reach your goal!

Mentoring is a powerful and popular way for people to learn a variety of personal and professional skills. In fact, they say that mentoring is one of the oldest forms of influence. And I have been so lucky to work with mentoring and mentoring program for a lot of years now and find it still fascinating.

And of course I will also recommend good books I read!