The law of influence

The True Measure of Leadership is Influence – Nothing More, Nothing Less

(DAY 2 – The 21 Day Leadership Challenge)

Leadership is not about your title or position. It’s about leading. Can you lead in a situation where your title or position don’t matter? Practice some anonymous leading.

Dig into it:

  • True leadership cannot be awarded, appointed, or assigned. It comes only from influence, and that cannot be mandated. It must be earned.
  • Five Myths About Leadership

1. The Management Myth – that leading and managing are the same. Leadership is about influencing people to follow, while management focuses on maintaining systems and processes. Managers can maintain direction; to move people you need influence.

2. The Entrepreneur Myth – entrepreneurs are skilled at seeing opportunities and going after them. But not all of them are good with leading people in their vision.

3. The Knowledge Myth – neither IQ nor education necessarily equates to leadership.

4. The Pioneer Myth – being a trendsetter is not the same as being a leader. To be a leader, a person has to not only be out in front, but also has to have people following his lead.

5. The Position Myth – leadership is not based on rank or title. It’s not the position that makes the leader; it’s the leader that makes the position.

  • Several Factors That Make a Leader

a) Character – Who They Are – true leadership always begins with the inner person. People can sense the depth of a person’s character.

b) Relationships – Who They Know – with deep relationships with the right people you can become the real leader in an organization.

c) Knowledge – What They Know – information is vital. You need a grasp of the facts to develop an accurate vision for the future.

d) Intuition What They Feel – leaders seek to recognize and influence intangibles such as energy, morale, timing and momentum.

e) Experience Where They’ve Been – the greater your past challenges, the more likely followers will be willing to let you lead.

f) Ability – What They Can Do – the bottom line is followers want to know whether you can lead them to victory. As soon as they no longer believe you can deliver, they will stop following.

The law of the lid

Leadership Ability Determines a Person’s Level of Effectiveness

(DAY 1 – The 21 Day Leadership Challenge)

Every leader has a ceiling. Maybe you’re destined to be the supreme master of the universe or maybe you can’t even get your dog to come when you call him. Think about your leadership lid and what you can do to push it higher.

Dig into it:

  • Leadership ability is the lid that determines a person’s level of effectiveness. Your leadership ability always determines your effectiveness and the potential impact of your organization.
  • Let’s say you’re an 8 on a scale from 1 to 10. But let’s say that your leadership ability is a 1.
  • Let’s say you become a real student of leadership and you maximize your potential, taking it all the way up to a 7.
  • By raising your leadership ability – without increasing your dedication at all – you can increase your original effectiveness by 600 percent. Leadership has a multiplying effect.
  • Smart, talented people are able to go so far because of the limitations of their leadership. To reach the highest level of effectiveness, you have to raise your leadership lid.

The Norwegian Mentoring Program for youth

Evening Course II is a part of the Norwegian Mentor program ( facilitating the transfer of experience between the mentors and mentee.

The participants will receive training in practical tool that both could be useful in the mentor role, and in the work otherwise.

There will be room to discuss the management challenges and issues that have emerged along with the adept.

AND there will be revealed a new mentoring tool – The MENTOR Tool.

This will be fun, a lot of the mentors have I trained several times so they are getting better and better. BUT, there is always something to learn.


Book Proposal

I got this email yesterday:

Hi Thor-Erik:

Thank you for sending me your email.  I am compiling articles from people for a book entitled:  Gratitude: A Key to Success and would love it if you would be able to contribute. I have been watching what you have been saying on Linked In and I am very impressed with you.

Each article will be a chapter so be sure to title it.  You have complete freedom to write what you like.  If you are able and willing, could you also include a short bio and a JPEG picture of yourself that I can include in the book.  I want to have the book fully completed and being marketed by March 31, 2011 and so I would need this from you a.s.a.p.

Please let me know if you would like to be involved.  Thanks.


And of course I wanted to do this article and answer the email with some more questions. I will post it on my blog and also keep you posted on the advancing 🙂

The 21 Day Leadership Challenge

Every no and then I read up some old books, and by old I mean before year 2000. I now not everybody would agree with me but I mean that very much have change in our society the last ten years.

But never the less I find it educational to read them anyhow. So the pile before me contains seven books from the same author starting with a book from 1998.

The author is John C. Maxwell and he is an internationally recognized leadership expert, speaker, coach, and author who has sold more than 19 million books. His organizations have trained more than two million leaders worldwide. Dr. Maxwell is the founder of EQUIP and INJOY Stewardship Services.

Every year he speaks to Fortune 500 companies, international government leaders, and organizations as diverse as the United States Military Academy at West Point, the National Football League, and ambassadors at the United Nations. A New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and Business Week best-selling author, Maxwell was one of 25 authors named to’s 10th Anniversary Hall of Fame.

Three of his books, The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, Developing the Leader Within You, and The 21 Indispensable Qualities of a Leader have each sold more than a million copies.

After reading the book and about the author I find out that it is also a 10´th anniversary edition from 2008.

So I’ve put together a 21 days leadership challenge. Starting in March the 1. and for the next 21 days, make it your mission to practice one of the laws of leadership. Someway, somehow, any way you can.

So the 1. Of March I will start this challenge.

Good luck!



Those of us who are involved in mentoring, are so involved because we want to make a difference in other persons’ lives. Many of us became involved in mentoring because someone invested their energy, time, and caring in us. Others of us became involved because no one invested themselves in us that way, and we want to be sure that we have done what we can so that never happens for others.

Best Mentoring Blog 2011


I want to put mentoring even more on the agenda and how implement it to peoples personal development and also for companies development.

I have been working with mentoring for over 10 years both in Norway and outside in other countries. My experience is both from universities and companies, and in the start I had mentoring programs together with Junior Chamber International (where I am a senator, it´s to honor the achievements of an outstanding Member for my dedication and contributions to JCI) and Junior Achievement.

I am looking for the 25 best mentoring blogs for 2011. I have been reading a lot at your blog and find it to be one of the candidates for «Best Mentoring Blog 2011».

Some of the criteria are: Most useful information about mentoring, best on mentoring tools and easiest tools to implement in every days life.

University in Stavanger

Tomorrow I am going back to the University in Stavanger and their mentor program.

I am really looking forward to see all the mentees and mentors again, and get some feedback on their road in the mentoring landscape their in.

Ask yourself

  • Where do I want to be at the completion of my mentoring voyage?
  • What opportunities do you want a mentoring experience to give you?
  • What will be different for you then?
  • Do you really want that?
  • Will you  be ready for it?
  • What does your gut say?

One year success plan

How are you at achieving the goals you set for yourself? Do you make significant progress? Is it more like taking one step forward and two steps back?

As you look toward 2011, what’s your plan to keep yourself  growing,
learning and achieving throughout the year?

Now is the time to incorporate a system that helps you stay focused and on course for reaching your goals. And here is how you can benefit from the legacy that legendary personal achievement expert Jim Rohn left us and have him as your mentor.

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