Kategori: Personal development

Articles about personal development.

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How to ask someone to be your mentor

Mentorship has a big impact on workplace wellness and productivity. Nine in 10 workers, 91%, who have a career mentor say they are happy in their jobs (https://www.cnbc.com/2019/07/16/nine-in-10-workers-who-have-a-mentor-say-they-are-happy-in-their-jobs.html ).
In contrast, four out of 10 professionals who don’t have a mentor have considered quitting in the last quarter.

«The benefits of mentorship are clear, so why doesn’t everyone have a mentor? Companies often create mentorship programs, but individuals may be left to choose for themselves whether they want to participate. And simply being assigned a mentor likely isn’t enough to foster a real difference in happiness at work via any of the measures noted above». Source CNBC.

It is important that the potential mentee get to choose to be in a mentoring program, because you have to get all in…

Try your best to be IN a mentoring program, get your company to start one if they don’t have one yet.

But after trying to get a mentoring program within your company, you still are on your own. Relax, here is the dos and don’ts. The source is GetSmarter.

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Navigating in a liquid society

I heard this expression at a conference in Oslo on learning behavior and thought it was our everyday life. We navigate every single day in a society that is constantly changing. And how can we do this best then, not only get through but also get upwards. We will always be a better version of ourselves, become better, become wiser.

A mentor is not just someone who has walked the trail before or done what you are going into, but also a conversation partner. Having a mentor just gets more and more important.

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Mentor-LELO

People ask what our company name means, and I will give you guys an answer here.

Mentor is ok right? Ok, we all know that…

L = Living

E = Exceptional

L = Life

O = Opportunities

So we have a big goal in the company, to help people live an exceptional life… wow, I can’t wait to start…go go go…

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A new mentoring company

For a long time now me and my partner have been working with a new business idea. We would like to start a mentoring company which is making mentoring programs to refugees to Norway. We want to help them into the Norwegian society and building a strong network here and maybe also getting jobs.

A changing world creates new situations with changing conditions and opportunities. The challenges for everyone both in personal life or in the workplace are large and increasingly complex. The Mentor-LELO Mentor program provides a structured framework tool for bringing reflective and evolving conversations.

Our vision is inclusion, equality and self-realization. Achieving higher inclusion of immigrants in the labor market will have a positive impact on the sense of social belonging, promoting inclusion and strengthening integration. On the other hand, all immigrants must have the opportunity to exploit their resources.

Stay tuned…

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Success Takes Time and Hard Work—Follow These 5 Steps to Stick With It to the End

We live in an immediate gratification kind of society and why should the idea of being successful be any different?

There are people who really do have a spark. They get a great idea and decide to go for it. But they ultimately fail, only because they do not stick with it long enough for their endeavor to succeed—they did not see it through to the end.

 As a blogger and a writer, I have personally learned that success takes time, hard work, and just plain stick-to-it-ness. Have you ever noticed on the web that there are a lot of dead blogs out there (according to the International Bloggers Association, approximately 95 percent are in the blog graveyard along with their deceased Twitter feeds and Facebook pages. It is kind of sad, really. All of these blogs started with excitement. They started with purposeful energy. Now they are just gone. The million dollar question is this: How do you stick with it (whatever “it” is) long enough to succeed? These five steps can help you cross the finish line of this marathon—and you will see your idea through.

  1. Find the passion.

Embark on this project only if you are passionate about it, because it’s passion that energizes you for the long-haul. If not, you will inevitably tire of it and probably will not stay with it.

  1. Know your “why.”

Why are you doing this? For me, writing in my journal helps clarify why it is important to me. Ask yourself, how will your idea impact your life? Your career? How will it help others? Your family?

  1. Write out a plan.

The best intentions can get lost if we don’t have a roadmap to follow. Write out a business plan for your idea that includes tangible action steps. Make them specific. Give them a timeframe.

  1. Make it a daily habit.

Sometimes to make our big plans and dreams come true, we have to fit them into whatever else we have going on in our lives. You have to find a way to incorporate this plan into your daily life so that it becomes as routine as brushing your teeth.

  1. Stick with it.

Have the big picture in mind. What are you aspiring to do? Don’t let anything or anybody discourage you. Just do it. Eventually, if you keep the end goal in mind, you will get there. You really will! And when you do, it will be so worth it.

“The greatest oak was once a little nut who held its ground.” –Author Unknown

 

This article is shortened down, but originally from Debra DiPietro which is a 2015 SUCCESS BlogStars winner, nominated and voted upon as one of the most influential self-development writers and bloggers on the web for her blog, The Warm Milk Journal. 

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‘Dreams Are for Losers’

Shonda Rhimes (https://no.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shonda_Rhimes And http://wifey.tv/video/shonda-rhimes-dreams-are-for-losers/ ) hold this speech for the Dartmouth University grads and for me this is a strange thing to say. Yes I can agree if dream is all you do, but if you then put a plan to it… She also says that while you are busy dreaming the successful people are busy doing… Well sorry Shonda Rhimes, but I think the successful people also have dreamed it first and then they do… 
 I am a dreamer, and I thought to myself that it is a stupid thing to be. Look around, life is terrible and people are terrible and dreaming is naive and dumb. It’s easy to question the things you are when someone else put a question mark on what you believe in.

But then I remembered that speech «I have a dream» by Martin Luther King,that guy wasn’t naive and dumb—far from it. And he didn’t just talk. He did stuff to try to make his dream come true. And the speaking of the dream, the vision, it infused a lot of other people with energy and hope to act and keep on acting, especially when things were terrible.

I identify myself as a dreamer. But to me, a dreamer is also a doer, a doer also a dreamer. I think that by the very nature of doing something with all your heart and hustle, there is an underlying belief there that what you’re doing matters, that it will propel you somewhere, even if you don’t know or ever dreamed of where. I don’t think dreamers have to know where they’re going either. How can you ever really know?

What you call yourself, what moves you, whether it’s a dream or simply the task of the day, doesn’t really matter, at least not to me.

To me what matters is you using your gifts to their fullest, sharing your art, creating your thing, being your kindest self, and allowing it to grow outside yourself, to seep into the life of someone else, to make it a little better.

Because if you dream of being a writer, you should write. The rest is unknowable, and though you can’t always create the exact outcome you intend, what I’ve learned is you do create a special kind of potential, possibility and growth—a kind that will not exist unless you do your dream. Unless you try. Every day. Even when it feels like it’s going nowhere.

I don’t know about you, but I can’t seem to help but say yes to that.

This is based on an article from the Success Magazine and Isa Adney, read the whole article here: Dreams are for Loosers

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How to get most of your mentor

It’s a good question and I’m sure everyone already figured out that I am a huge believer in the value of mentors. So I have three simple tip.

  1. Be sure to get the right mentor. Before you find a mentor take the time to find out why you want a mentor and what you think the mentor can do for you.
  2. Have a clear overview over who you are. I like to use SWOT-analyzes from the businessworld, Your strength, your weaknesses, your potential/opportunities and in the end what can stop you for getting to your goals.
  3. Be prepared and joine your mentor in the dance (dancing in the moment). Be prepared for every meeting and try to answer and reflect on everything your mentor asks you.

Is someone having others?

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The inner dialogue

 

Every no and then I am surprised of how people talk about themselves and to themselves. I am characterized as an very positiv person and I try to be that. And I am always disturbed when people say that they are not going to manage this or that. I am trying to tell them that what you want is what you get and right no you DONT want to succeed. The answer I get is not suitable for writing, but Iḿ not giving up to pass on the positive message.

If we do a test: Pause for a second and think about the thoughts you’ve had all day today. Do a little audit of how many positive versus negative thoughts you’ve had since waking up.

I really hope that itś more positive than negative…

I use to say to people on my trainings and the people I mentor: «If you talked to your friends the way you are talking to yourself, you will have no friends»…

So tomorrow BE POSITIVE…

Some of my tools come from mental training, just Google it and you will find a lot of webpages.

My favorite is a Norwegian coach and mental trainer, Erik Bertrand Larssen, he has launch his two books about mental trying in English. «No Mercy» and «Hell week» are two exceptional books, read more on his webpage.

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What to do with my life?

I am often asked questions like: «What do I do with my life?» Or «What should my next step be?»

– And I answer usually always the same:

«Follow your heart and do what naturally inspires you right now!».

Indeed, we can speculate and speculate of what we should / should no do, and so on. But happiness is not in your thoughts. Happiness can be found in the moment when you follow your heart and is present in the moment.

I did now for many years ago that I should work with people, and I really love to see how you can help others to develop. It makes me happy and gives me energy.